He Wants Another Baby Now, But She Can’t Forget The Night That Changed Everything

Deciding to have another child is supposed to be a shared, joyful step forward. But for some couples, it brings old wounds right back to the surface, especially when trust hasn’t fully healed.

For a 27-year-old mother of one, that decision isn’t simple at all. On paper, everything looks aligned. She and her husband always planned for more kids, and they already share a young daughter.

But one night, when their baby was just four months old, shifted how safe she felt in her own home and in her relationship. Even now, years later, that moment still lingers.

So when her husband says it’s time to try again, she hesitates.

And that hesitation has turned into conflict.

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'AITAH for refusing to get pregnant right now because of my husband’s actions in the past?'

My husband(33m) and I (27f) have been together for five years and we have a 2 year old daughter together. We always planned on having more kids and I definitely...

After having our daughter we had a major rift in our relationship. One weekend he had one of his friends over and they were drinking.

Our daughter was four months old at the time,so kind of annoying but as long as they didn’t wake us up, whatever.

They had been friends for like a year, so I didn’t really know him that well, but he definitely had vibes.

My husband went to the store or that is what he said. I know he wasn’t at a store for 1.5+ hours at 1am and still don’t know what he...

So he left him at our house alone late af. Dude got into bed with me and tried some stuff. Our daughter was also in this room.

I freaked out when I realized and was so fucking confused. He left but I couldn’t get in touch with my husband until like an hour after all of this...

I was so upset with him and this was kind of a realization moment for me. I didn’t 100% know if our relationship was going to work out for the...

After that I just didn’t know if I could trust him or rely on him and our relationship was a mess for a long time after that.

I’m not saying he knew or anything like that, I don’t believe that. I just think this could have easily been prevented by being responsible and using better judgment,

and I expected that especially when we have a tiny baby. But it was just all so fucking sketchy, so the trust has suffered.

We have had lesser issues. He can be a huge ah sometimes tbh, drinking has been an issue.

He thinks it’s time to start trying again. I have been putting it off and trying not to start anything, not bringing up what happened in the past.

We got in a fight about it a few days ago and have been arguing since.

He thinks I’m intentionally punishing him for something he didn’t do and being really petty since this is our family, new life.

He thinks I’m an ah for deviating from what we talked about. He doesn’t want there to be a big age difference between kids.

I told him I just want to wait longer and I feel entitled to that since I am the one who will be pregnant.

Since the original thing happened he really has been a lot better, so I feel like a dick.

I think I might actually be overreacting since we already have a kid and it probably looks like I resent the fuck out of him and aren’t sure about us...

It just seems irresponsible to do this without our relationship being solid. Idk. I guess I’m just wondering what other’s thoughts are?

[This AITA post has been removed by the moderators. We were able to save the original post itself, but unfortunately we can’t restore the comment section.]

Anyway, you can’t build something new on a foundation that still feels unstable. And no amount of planning or intention can replace the feeling of safety that needs to be there first.

Wanting more children doesn’t make him wrong. But needing more time doesn’t make her wrong either.

Because when it comes to bringing a new life into the world, “not yet” is a valid answer.

So what do you think, is this hesitation a sign of unresolved issues, or simply a responsible decision to wait until everything truly feels right?

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